I’ve been reading polls on winning hearts.
Young women have posted various ways that men sincerely touch their hearts.
Young men share thoughts on what they wish women knew.

Here are some examples;
{in no particular order}
[[ladies in italics, men in bold]]

But before I start; I just want to say that every man and woman are different, so your view on some of this, based on your gender, might not be what you actually would think.
SO, when applying this to your relationships, they could have a different opinion on this stuff.
Don’t be afraid to ask them though!


I want him to get to know me, he doesn’t have to share in everything I love, but I want him to observe me to find out what I like to do. 
If I screw up, I don’t want to be told over and over.
 I want to be called beautiful, every day I see him. I don’t want it to be forced, but I want him to honestly comment on something he finds beautiful about me.
Don’t be afraid to ditch the make up. When she’s secure  with the face God gave her, there’s nothing more beautiful than confidence.
I want him to be jealous for me; I want him to be protective of me, not OVERprotective or OVERpossessive,  but to let me know that he wants only me.
Don’t tweeze the life out of your eyebrows. Fixed up is ok, but I still want you to have them.
I want him to work at becoming friends with my siblings and relaxed with my parents.
If we ask what’s wrong and you say “nothing” we won’t press it.
 If I say “nothing’s wrong” I sometimes want to hide what’s going on, but mostly I want him to show he cares and try to find out.
Bed time means “go to sleep” not “ask stupid questions”
I want him to be interested in my life as much as I am in his; involvement means a lot.
Crying is blackmail. Use it if you must, but don’t expect us to like it.
I want him to be adventurous with me; build forts, wrestle, get excited about silly things.
Ask much as I’d like to, I can’t read her mind, so she needs to tell me what she wants, little hints don’t work.
I want him to play with my hair, and hug me from behind, and especially kiss my forehead. It’s a VERY understated gesture.
Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers
I want him to understand that sweetness is more attractive than sexiness. I like it when he opens doors and takes my plate, when he picks a wildflower and brushes his fingers along my cheek.
You can either ask us to do something OR tell us how you want it done… not both.
I want him to smell good and let me wear his sweater. Never underestimate the power of a great cologne; its a reminder when he’s not around.
Christopher Columbus didn’t need directions, and neither do we.
Accept my flaws.
I need her to need me.
I want him to try new things
She should have a separate life, I want her to care about me, but I don’t want to be involved in everything 24/7.
Can I please have a cute nickname that no other girl has? Babe, baby, sweetheart, and honey are too cliche. I want to be unique.
Tip: To attract a great man and build a wonderful relationship learn to ask without hesitation for what you want and need in every area of your life.
Brush your teeth, comb your hair, and don’t pick your nose, that’s what tissues are for. Seriously, how long does it take to look in the mirror?
Great men know how to build a wonderful relationship, and they know fidelity is the main ingredient. We want your faithfulness as much as you want ours.
If he can teach me new things, like dancing or how to play guitar, skateboard or stargaze, its time with him that makes the day special.
Tell me when you appreciate my workefforts
Be alone with me, focus on each other and laugh together
Don’t put me down about my job or how much I make
I want him to suggest the unexpected–get take out and eat on the beach, take a walk under the moon or watch the sunset
Trust me to make decisions in our marriage
I want him to say “Let’s talk” and shows interest in my emotions
Disagree with me only in private and honor me in public
I want him to be proud of me, to speak highly of me in front of others
She needs to realize how vulnerable she is to males and value my protection
I like it when he keeps commitments and is punctual, it shows he made it a priority to invest time in remembering.
Don’t denounce my shoulder-to-shoulder time with my friends to get me to spend more face-to-tace time with you. Respect my friendships and I’ll want to hang with you too.
I like it when he notices when something is different, like if I polished my nails or cut my hair.

That’s quite a lot.
Love has been abused, hardly anymore do I see true love.
An abundance of these gender positions are selfish, but realizing what the other sex needs, will open your eyes to what true love really is–unselfish; self-sacrificing.
If he needs your praise, give it to him without expecting anything in return.
If she respects him, he’ll love her.
Unconditional Love
Unconditional Respect

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