Girls Helping Guys Relationship-wise

It’s amazing how much information was written down, from years ago, that is still relevant to today.

The Songs of Solomon have so much advice for relationships.
All we have to do is read into the inspired Word of God.

I think often times guys think that to please a gal they have to work above and beyond their capabilities…so not true.
I’m going to support this with some scripture.

  • Assurance in Words
    Song of Solomon:
    1:15 “How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves.” [[Affirmation of her beauty, that YOU find her beautiful. A nickname shows close, personal, and relational value.]]
    2:2 “Like a lily among thorns is my darling among the maidens.” [[Solomon found his woman one of a kind-a beauty among a harsh background. Every other woman couldn’t compare to the beauty that she had, she was a knock out to him!]]
    Chapter 4 is Solomon verbally telling her what he visualizes. It’s like poetic sight. Verses 7 and 9 I especially love; “All beautiful you are, my darling; there is no flaw in you…you have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride; you have stolen my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace.” [[She is his standard of beauty. She is most beautiful and flawless because compared to herself, she is herself! He only has eyes for her. He calls her sister; I think importantly that he recognizes that she is a daughter of the King, therefore, his sister. Respecting her as a sister, before crossing the garden gate of marriage, is major here.]]
  • Through all the senses [[FYI, more intimate]]
    4:13-15 “Your plants are an orchard of pomegranates with choice fruits, with henna and nard, nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon, with every kind of incense tree, with myrrh and aloes and all the finest spices. You are a garden fountain, a well of flowing water streaming down from Lebanon.”
    [[fruit=taste…awkward for some, but the taste of her is luscious. henna=sight…beautiful purple linens were a sight for sore eyes. incense=scent…the way her hair, or her perfume, or clothes smell…if you like it, tell her. Girls like communication–and especially compliments!
    aloes=touch…the way her skin feels to you, or when you hug each other.
    fountain=sound…her voice, her laugh, her song.
  • Gifts
  • The majority of girls like to receive gifts for no reason at all…now guys, don’t freak out on me here. These ‘gifts’ don’t have to be extravagant and pricey. Actually, it’s more sentimental if…well, let me put this into perspective.
  • On his wife’s birthday, man 1 buys her a convertible.
  • On his wife’s birthday, man 2 plans out a picnic lunch at a look out spot over the beach. After taking a walk and him telling her how much he appreciates all she does, he takes a smooth rock or piece of bark to take home and writes a love quote, bible verse, or poem on it, so she can remember the day. A bouquet of flowers is always a plus…or even a single rose (or her favorite flower) on her pillow on her birthday morning.
  • Which wife do you think will feel more emotionally loved? She will appreciate and respect her husband more because of the closeness he created. Sometimes, all it takes is a single wildflower with a kiss, or hand written note attached, just because it’s Thursday.
  • C-O-U-P-L-E
  • C=Closeness
  • O=Openness
  • U=Understanding
  • P=Peacemaking
  • L=Loyalty
  • E=Esteem
  • [[This acronym is very important in being able to relate to your woman. Comprehending these six points and putting them into practice will improve your relationship BIG TIME]]

 Ladies, if you have ANY input whatsoever, please help our guys out!
Feel free, guys, to comment asking for help (you can be anonymous too) or even giving me advice. Is there something that you think girls need to know?
Whether you are married, single, engaged, or blue, I would love to hear your thoughts and perspectives; your feedback.


Secrets of Loving Her and Respecting Him

I’m currently swamped with studying a minimum of a gazillion hours a day.
My Pharmacy Technician Certification Exam is coming up soon, and I REALLY don’t have time for my Facebook and Blog, so I just want to quick encourage you to check out some videos.

I’ve been involved in a lot of dating//marriage//courtship books and talks and videos lately.
Ironically my childhood bestie  and I hung out and she introduced me to the series her church in Grand Rapids did. I think the videos get deleted after a while, so KEEP UP and watch them NOW!

The Elephant in the Church

There’s the link.

This series, I pray, will open your eyes up to what your wife//future wife needs//will need of you. And ladies, what your husband//future husband wants and desires of you. This is how sex can be passionate and pure and God-glorifying, rather than perverted and hurtful.

Grab your Bibles and take notes when you watch the video, it’ll be great reflection in months to come when you need a reminder of God’s gift of love and respect in a marriage.

P.s. if you are younger than 14, don’t watch this. The content isn’t for you yet.

Judge Much?

Loving people for no reason at all is called Agape love. It’s the Greek word meaning ‘unconditional love’.

This is my challenge for the rest of my life.

God calls me to do this, just as He loves me despite my sinful nature.

That’s an incredible thought…

When Christ lived here, as a literal human, he hung out with everybody.
Prostitutes, tax Collectors, adulteress’, etc…

Jesus found people where they were.
No one is going to trust in Something that they don’t find to be kind, and personable, and real.
He asked the Samaritan woman for a drink of water rather than tell her the sin in her life and that she needed a relationship with God…
He went to dinner with Zacchaeus…
With the adulteress woman, Jesus reminded the others of Moses’ Law by saying “All right, stone her,” He told them, “but let those who have never sinned throw the first stones!” (John 8:7).

I have often found myself hating the sin before I love the person–I’m so wrong.
Loving the person and showing them that they matter to me and to the Creator of the universe should be first.

Unbelievers often have a sad example of Christ, because we as “Christians” (literal: Christ followers) fail so miserably at proclaiming God’s love and shining Him.
Like Aaron Gillespie says:
“…the way that a lot of non-christians look at our big buildings with our flat screen tv’s and our millions of dollars worth of carpet and garbage and say ‘I wanna go there, that’s so awesome!’ no, they are going to go, ‘I’m not allowed there; I’m not wanted there’  I think as a real-time Christian our goal is to open our arms as big as they can and say ‘Look, I got faults, I got issues, but Jesus loves you and your life matters. And if I can be of any help to you; if we can pray together-great! if you need an ear, a shoulder, somebody to listen, whatever you need, I’m here.’

Material things are crap. So, your church has four projector screens, five-hundred decorated rooms and plants inside…what is that? What. Is. That? Who really gives a raisin if your church has worldly attractions, is your church focused on Christ? Are YOU focused on Christ?
Is there discipleship and leading the lost to be found, is there growth and love?

I’m slowly learning what it’s truly like to grab a glass of Jesus and drink, letting Him overflow and absorb into my system–effecting me in ways I would have never known possible.

I fail miserably often, I know what I should do, I know what I desperately want to do, but I am weak and I am human and my God is great and this is why He shines in my life…when I am weak, He is strong.

So, here’s to the pursuit of a life of love…are you up for the challenge?